Forgive. Forgive and forget. Forgive us our sins. I guess it is a given that we will offend people by our actions or words and have to ask for forgiveness, of this I'm sure. What is not sure however, is if we actually will be forgiven. Haven't you hurt someone, begged for forgiveness, only for the person to hurt you back then remind you of what you did? They also remind you that payback is a deadly bitch. Whatever happened to just letting go? People don't forgive anymore. "An eye for an eye" seems to be gaining popularity.
Children forgive though. You can take a little girl's toy from her, ignore all her screams and pleas for you to return it, even hiss when she says "you're not my friend again." But the next day, call her to play and she seems not to remember what you did. She'll be smiling, laughing with so much energy that thee is none left to keep malice. Kids are really blessed.
Adults on the other hand lead totally different lives. You could say the wrong thing and a woman can hate you for years. One mistake and a man writes you off as a bad person, maybe even for life. Since when did we become perfect beings?
I used to be a kid once (you berra believe it), very playful and forgiving but the world changes us all, innocence is lost and the 'world' replaces that child-like quality purity we all had once. I think to NOT forgive would be bitter and bitterness makes you old. The true visual of bitterness is a frowning heart, imagine that. How can you live long?
Any piece of negativity you store within, evolves to form a poison that does not harm the person who seeks your forgiveness as much as you, the consumer of that poison. It is life that makes us hurt one another but you must see that you also have faults that should be forgiven, you must free yourself of this bondage.
This is why I once called her and said "You can reach me anytime if you need my help", not because I am a fool but because I prefer to forgive and be forgiven in return. I know I've offended many but I refuse to stay offended and I pray to continue to find that grace to let go. So far, it has made me a much better person that I thought I would be. Forgive and it is you who is freed. Gulp Gulp {hic-hic}
i agree with you; refusing to forgive is a learned attitude. imho, part of this issue is why people don't forgive: not wanting to be mocked/humiliated/embarrassed/fooled again, not wanting to be seen as weak/spineless/stupid, as well as the devastating emotional impact of the original event that birthed the unforgiveness. all these mental mountains have to be overcome before true forgiveness can occur.
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sometimes i think ive forgiven but i don't forget...no matter how hard i try...
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